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We Can Do Hard Things · September 8, 2026 · 1h 31m

Why "We Never Fight" is a Red Flag: How to Fight Well

Conflict resolution expert Priya Parker joins Glennon Doyle to discuss why avoiding conflict can be more damaging than fighting. She explains the difference between unhealthy peace and the healthy heat that deepens relationships, and she offers a framework for deciding when to confront, when to let go, and when to walk away. One key rule—name the behavior, not the person—makes difficult conversations easier to hear. The conversation draws on Parker's new book, *The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict*.

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Preview

Parker argues that the absence of conflict—saying "we never fight"—is often not a sign of a healthy relationship but an indication of avoidance and suppressed issues.
Unhealthy Peace vs. Healthy Heat
Parker distinguishes between two types of quiet: an unhealthy peace born from fear or passivity, and the healthy heat that emerges when people care enough to engage disagreements directly.

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