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The One You Feed · June 9, 2026 · 1h 3m

Wise Effort: What Your Regrets Reveal About What Matters Most

Diana Hill
Show Notes

Diana Hill explores how regrets function as compass points toward our deepest values. Drawing from ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Buddhist psychology, and modern research, she explains why the things that hurt most often reveal what we care about most. The episode covers how to work with regret without getting stuck in it, why discomfort signals meaningful alignment, and practical strategies for focusing energy on what truly matters.

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Curious

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Regret as Values Compass
Regret reveals what you truly value—the pain of regret points directly to what matters most.
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Psychological Flexibility and Resilience
Psychological flexibility—the ability to hold difficult emotions without being controlled by them—is the foundation of resilience and values-driven living.
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Novel

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Wise Effort as Energy Allocation
Wise Effort means directing your finite energy toward what genuinely matters, not toward what you think you 'should' care about.
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Highlights

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Discomfort as Doorway to Values Alignment
Discomfort, worry, grief, and loneliness often signal that you're moving toward something that matters deeply.
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Editorial

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Toxic vs. Healthy Regret
Regret becomes toxic when it keeps you stuck in rumination; it's healthy when it clarifies values and motivates change.
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References

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How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life — Diana Hill (2026) — Hill's new book on meaningful change through small actions
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The Six Saboteurs of Self-Control — Diana Hill — Free downloadable guide on patterns that derail progress

Misc

✧Hill uses ACT and Buddhist frameworks to reframe regret as signal rather than failure
✧Emphasis on 'turning toward' difficult emotions rather than avoiding them
✧The paradox: discomfort often points toward values alignment
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