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The One You Feed · June 12, 2026 · 1h 4m

How to Trust Life Even When It Breaks Your Heart

Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer explores how to maintain trust in life after profound loss—the death of her son and father. Through daily poetry practice, spiritual teachings, and the concept of acceptance, she shares how to hold both grief and joy simultaneously. The episode centers on practical spiritual practices, the parable of the two wolves, and how small daily choices and reflective questions can guide us through life's darkest moments.

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Curious

The parable teaches that within us are competing impulses (often framed as a good wolf and a bad wolf), and whichever one we feed through our attention and choices grows stronger.

Highlights

Grief Is Not Linear—It Coexists With Joy
Genuine healing from loss doesn't mean moving past grief, but learning to hold both sorrow and joy simultaneously without needing to resolve or fix the pain.
True acceptance of loss is not giving up or losing hope—it's releasing the demand that reality be different while still taking right action in response to what is.

Editorial

Writing or engaging with poetry daily creates a container for processing complex emotions and staying present with what is, rather than resisting or escaping pain.
Asking intentional questions at key moments—morning, evening, before decisions—helps align daily choices with values and keeps you from drifting into autopilot or emotional reactivity.

References

All the HoneyRosemerry Wahtola TrommerHer collection exploring grief, acceptance, and the interplay of joy and sorrow

Misc

Rosemerry lost both her son and father, profound losses that shaped her spiritual practice
The mantra 'adjust' appears central to her approach to grief and resilience
Poetry as a daily practice for processing emotion and staying present
She distinguishes between numbing/avoiding grief and genuinely accepting it
The parable of the two wolves (which wolf you feed) appears as a framework for choice
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