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Feel Better, Live More · September 29, 2026 · 2h 2m

The Science of Happiness, Love & Human Connection with Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky

Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky, a leading happiness researcher, shares her findings from 36 years of study, revealing that the key to happiness is feeling loved, not just being loved. She explains why external achievements like better jobs or bigger houses bring only temporary pleasure due to hedonic adaptation, and discusses how happiness actually fuels success and physical health. The episode explores her five mindsets for cultivating felt love, including Radical Curiosity and Sharing, and includes practical exercises like the Fast Friends questions to build closeness in minutes.

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Sonja makes the crucial distinction that being loved by others is not the same as the subjective experience of feeling loved, and the latter is what drives happiness.
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External achievements such as a higher salary, better looks, or a larger house bring only transient happiness gains because humans quickly adapt to new circumstances.

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