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Being Well · February 9, 2026 · 1h 10m

Reducing Reactivity (Without Becoming a Doormat) with Sharon Salzberg

Sharon Salzberg, co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society, joins Rick and Forrest to explore how to work skillfully with anger and reactivity without becoming passive. Drawing on her new children’s book Kind Karl, she shares how mindfulness creates space, how to distinguish healthy moral anger from habitual reactivity, and how looking closely at what’s in the anger can bring clarity. They discuss the Buddhist link between anger and fear, the protective function of anger, and how lovingkindness and self-compassion are active forces for resilience.

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Canon

Mindfulness creates a gap between a trigger and our habitual reaction, allowing us to choose how we respond rather than acting on impulse.
Anger often arises as a protective response to perceived threat or vulnerability, and looking closely at 'what's in the anger' reveals underlying fear or hurt.

Highlights

A Child's Definition of Mindfulness00:06:00
Sharon shares a fourth-grader's encapsulation: 'Mindfulness means not hitting someone in the mouth.'
Healthy Moral Anger vs. the Habit of Anger00:26:48
Sharon distinguishes between anger that responds to injustice with clarity and the habitual pattern of anger that causes suffering without insight.

References

Kind Karl: A Little Crocodile with Big FeelingsSharon Salzbergnew children's book about a crocodile with big feelings
LovingkindnessSharon Salzbergseminal work on lovingkindness meditation

Misc

Sharon quotes a fourth-grader: 'Mindfulness means not hitting someone in the mouth.'
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