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Where Should We Begin? · March 10, 2025 · 51m
Walking Toward My Mother
A woman getting married wants to walk toward her mother with more understanding. Years of complicated emotions since her parents' divorce have built walls between them. Perel helps her understand her mother's defenses and her own.
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Highlights
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Understanding your parents as people — not just as parents — is essential for adult relational health
Perel: as long as you relate to your parents only as 'mom and dad,' you'll remain trapped in childhood dynamics. The developmental task of adulthood is to see your parents as complex individuals with their own histories, wounds, and limitations — not to excuse their failures but to understand them.•
Emotional inheritance — we carry our parents' unprocessed emotions without knowing it
Perel: children absorb not just their parents' explicit lessons but their unprocessed emotional material. A mother's unresolved guilt becomes the daughter's unresolved anger. A father's unprocessed grief becomes the son's inexplicable sadness. This 'emotional inheritance' operates unconsciously.Was this useful?