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Where Should We Begin? · February 10, 2025 · 50m
Leaving the Shame Behind
A man carrying decades of shame about his sexuality. Raised in a conservative religious community, he internalized the message that his desires were sinful. Perel helps him separate who he is from what he was taught to believe about himself.
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Canon
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Perel: this man's core self (his desires, his needs, his authentic identity) has been colonized by an inherited belief system that tells him those desires are wrong. Liberation requires separating 'who I am' from 'what I was taught to believe about who I am' — and choosing the former.
Highlights
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Shame is the most isolating emotion — it tells you that your core self is defective
Perel: shame is different from guilt. Guilt says 'I did something bad.' Shame says 'I AM bad.' Guilt is about behavior; shame is about identity. Shame is the most isolating emotion because it tells you that if people truly knew you, they would reject you.Was this useful?