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Where Should We Begin? · April 22, 2024 · 47m
Esther Calling — Love Is a Trap
A caller who believes that love always leads to pain — every deep connection she's had has ended in betrayal or abandonment. Perel explores how this belief has become a self-fulfilling prophecy, and the courage required to love despite knowing it might hurt.
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Perel: the caller equates vulnerability with weakness and self-protection with strength. Perel inverts this: true strength is the willingness to be hurt. Connection is impossible without risk. Walls that protect you from pain also protect you from love.
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The belief that love is dangerous creates the very outcomes it fears
Perel: when you enter relationships believing 'love always leads to pain,' you unconsciously create the pain you expect. You test partners until they fail, withhold vulnerability to stay safe, and interpret ambiguous behavior as evidence of impending betrayal. The belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.Was this useful?