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Think Fast, Talk Smart · June 4, 2026 · 28m

Ask & You Shall Receive: Questions For Better Negotiations

Stan Christensen
Show Notes

Stan Christensen, a professional negotiator and Stanford instructor, challenges the zero-sum view of negotiation. Since 95% of negotiations happen with people you'll see again, success isn't claiming victory—it's building long-term, mutually beneficial relationships. The episode explores how listening, strategic questions, emotional awareness, and collaborative framing unlock better outcomes in negotiations from business deals to everyday decisions.

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Highlights

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Negotiation Success Is Relationship-Building, Not Zero-Sum Claiming02:58
Most negotiations (95%) happen with people you'll see again, so success should be measured by contributing to long-term relationship value, not by extracting maximum individual gain.
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Every Negotiation Is a Recurring Interaction03:37
Framing negotiation as a recurring relationship (not a one-off transaction) changes what success looks like and how you approach the interaction.
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Editorial

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Listening Is a Negotiation Power Move04:39
Active listening—understanding the other party's interests, constraints, and concerns—is one of the most effective negotiation tactics.
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Strategic Questions Unlock Collaborative Solutions06:12
Asking thoughtful questions—about constraints, priorities, and concerns—shifts negotiation from claiming to creating value.
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Negotiation Happens Daily, Not Just in Formal Settings03:37
Negotiation skills apply to everyday decisions—where to eat, how to divide household tasks, career conversations—not just formal business deals.
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Misc

✧Christensen teaches one of Stanford's most popular courses on negotiation.
✧He redefines negotiation success around relationship value, not individual gain.
✧The episode references his earlier appearance (Ep. 15) and a prior episode on tough talks (Ep. 204).
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