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Modern Wisdom · June 25, 2026 · 1h 12m

Why You Don’t Feel Loved (even when you are) - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115

Sonja Lyubomirsky joins Modern Wisdom to explore the science of feeling loved. She explains why simply hearing 'I love you' often isn't enough, how validation and a sharing mindset are key to connection, and why receiving love is a skill that many overlook. The conversation touches on self-esteem, vulnerability, and the practical habits that make people feel truly seen and valued.

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Highlights

Validation Is More Powerful Than 'I Love You'00:16:20
Lyubomirsky argues that telling someone 'I understand you' can be more impactful than saying 'I love you' because it demonstrates deep empathy.
Receiving Love Is a Skill00:18:10
Many people focus on how to give love, but Lyubomirsky explains that receiving love is a distinct skill that can be cultivated.
The Sharing Mindset Deepens Connection00:19:24
Lyubomirsky discusses why a sharing mindset is crucial for feeling connected in relationships.
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