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Huberman Lab · May 18, 2026 · 2h 30m

How to Overcome Social Anxiety | Dr. Nick Epley

Dr. Nick Epley, a behavioral scientist at the University of Chicago and expert on social connection, joins Andrew Huberman to discuss how small daily interactions—even with strangers—can significantly improve mental and physical health. They explore why we are often bad at inferring what others think, how tone of voice conveys more emotion than text, and the importance of responsiveness in genuine connection. Epley shares science-backed tools to reduce social anxiety, including practicing small moments of connection and challenging pessimistic expectations. The conversation also touches on the surprising joy that children with Down syndrome bring to families, challenging our assumptions about happiness.

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Canon

Epley explains that our assumptions about what others are thinking are often wildly inaccurate, contributing to social anxiety.

Highlights

Tone of Voice Conveys Emotion More Than Text00:17:18
Epley discusses how the voice carries emotional nuance that written words lose.
Small Moments of Connection With Strangers Boost Well-Being01:02:52
Epley demonstrates that brief, friendly exchanges with strangers improve mood and health.
Social Anxiety Can Be Reduced by Challenging Pessimistic Expectations01:22:26
Epley outlines a tool for overcoming social fear by testing negative predictions.
Children With Down Syndrome Bring Unexpected Blessings01:47:00
Epley shares research showing that families raising children with Down syndrome often report higher levels of happiness than expected.

References

Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and WantNicholas Epley (2014)Epley's book on mind perception

Misc

Epley mentions the '100 Days of Rejection' challenge as a way to desensitize social anxiety.
Discussion about the unexpected blessings that children with Down syndrome bring to families.
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