Why Avoiding a Fight is Killing Your Relationship (and How to Fight Well) | Priya Parker

Priya Parker, facilitator and strategic advisor, returns to argue that the fights people avoid are not what threaten their closest relationships — they are what can save them. The author of The Art of Gathering and the new book The Art of Fighting draws on two decades of helping churches, companies, and families fight better, not less. The conversation covers the moral framing that makes conflict feel like sin, the idea of relational longing as the pulse beneath a fight, and her three-phase framework for a healthy fight. She also explains what the phrase "we're not a" reveals about a group's aspirations, and why giant sequoias need fire to reproduce — and what that means for relationships that go decades without a real disagreement.