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Good Life Project · May 4, 2026 · 49m 44s

You Probably Shouldn’t Say That. And Yet…(Groundbreaking Science of Disagreeing Well) | Julia Minson

Julia Minson, behavioral scientist and Harvard Kennedy School professor, joins to discuss the science of disagreeing well. Her book 'How to Disagree Better' provides a research-backed framework for navigating conflict without damaging relationships. The conversation reveals why leading with facts often backfires and the importance of practicing on low-stakes disagreements. Minson also explains why empathy is unreliable in heated moments and what to focus on instead. This episode offers practical tools for anyone who wants to stay connected across deep differences.

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Highlights

Leading with Facts Backfires in Disagreement
Minson explains that leading with facts and data when the other person already disagrees with you backfires, and there is an alternative approach that builds trust.
Practice Disagreement on Low-Stakes Conversations
Minson advises practicing disagreement skills on low-stakes conversations first so you are not white-knuckling it when big moments arise.

References

How to Disagree BetterJulia Minson

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The host notes that the cost of disagreement done badly is one of the quietest, most cumulative kinds of pain.
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