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The Stoic Handbook · September 16, 2024 · 40m

How to Handle Difficult People: Stoic Strategies

Jon Brooks

Brooks applies Marcus Aurelius's strategies for dealing with difficult people: morning preparation, charitable interpretation, focusing on your own response, and the recognition that difficult people are also suffering.

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The Stoic approach to difficult people: they are not choosing to be difficult — they are acting from ignorance, fear, or pain, just as you sometimes act from ignorance, fear, or pain
Brooks presents the Stoic doctrine: no one is voluntarily wicked. Difficult people are not choosing to cause harm — they are acting from a mistaken understanding of what is good. Understanding this does not excuse their behavior but removes the personal sting.
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Highlights

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Marcus Aurelius began each morning by reminding himself: today I will encounter meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, deceitful people — and then prepared his response rather than hoping they would change
Brooks presents Marcus's famous morning meditation from Meditations 2.1: by anticipating difficult people each morning, Marcus shifted from reactive to proactive. He could not control their behavior; he could control his preparation.
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