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The Art of Manliness · August 11, 2026 · 51m 30s

The Joy of Touching Grass (and Knobs, Buttons, and Boarding Passes)

Ian Bogost argues that a fulfilling life isn't just about pursuing big components of happiness, but also about embracing the small, everyday moments of gratification that come from tactile interactions like shifting a manual transmission, using a well-made knob, or flipping through a physical menu. He explains how digitization and automation are erasing these small pleasures, leading to a loss of sensory richness. The episode explores ways to reclaim sensory life, such as keeping physical objects around and talking about small pleasures. Bogost also introduces the idea of living life sideways—finding meaning orthogonal to traditional upward trajectories.

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Novel

Happiness, Satisfaction, and Gratification Are Different00:06:38
Ian Bogost explains that while happiness is a state and satisfaction comes from achieving goals, gratification arises from everyday tactile experiences that engage our senses and give us a sense of control.
Dematerialization Erodes Everyday Gratification00:18:28
As everyday objects and interfaces are replaced by touchscreens and automation, we lose opportunities for tactile, sensory engagement that provided small but meaningful gratification.
Living Orthogonally: Finding Fulfillment Beyond Upward Striving00:48:17
Rather than always pursuing vertical progress like career or wealth, Bogost advocates for 'orthogonal' living—finding meaning in activities and pleasures that are parallel to, rather than climbing the ladder.

Highlights

Modern Work Strips Away Small Gratifications00:26:41
Office work, especially with digital tools, removes the physical, hands-on satisfactions that used to be part of many jobs—like handling paper, operating machinery, or using tangible tools.
Reclaiming Sensory Life Through Physical Objects and Conversation00:33:09
Bogost recommends surrounding yourself with tangible, well-made objects that invite touch and deliberate interaction, and sharing small moments of joy with others to reinforce their value.

References

The Small StuffIan Bogostthe book that inspired the episode

Misc

Ian describes the simple joy of using an old hotel ice machine and the sound of cubes crashing down.
He mentions the gratification of breaking an icicle off a roof.
Previous AoM episode #247 covered similar themes about limits, boredom, and irony.
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