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The Art of Manliness · December 2, 2025 · 50m

Masculinity as Confident Competence

Elliot Ackerman

Elliot Ackerman, a decorated Marine, former CIA paramilitary officer, and novelist, joins the show to discuss his column “A Man Should Know” at The Free Press. The conversation centers on how competence—practical skills that span from wearing a watch to giving a eulogy—shapes masculine identity and provides a constructive answer to the struggles of young men today. Ackerman argues that quiet confidence comes from a broad set of know-how, not posturing, and that intention and discipline can transform how a man carries himself.

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Masculinity as Confident Competence
Ackerman argues that masculinity is less about posturing and more about having a broad set of practical skills—confident competence—that allows a man to move through the world with purpose.
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Highlights

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Why Young Men Are Struggling
Ackerman discusses the modern challenges young men face, including a lack of clear rites of passage and ambiguous expectations, which leave many adrift.
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Editorial

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How to Wear a Watch
Ackerman explains why wearing a watch correctly is a small but significant skill that signals intention and self-respect.
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How to Give a Eulogy
Ackerman treats the ability to give a eulogy as a core masculine skill—one that demands honesty, grace, and the capacity to honor a life under emotional pressure.
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References

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Fields of Fire — James Webb
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The Things They Carried — Tim O'Brien
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The Catcher in the Rye — J.D. Salinger
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The Poetics of Manhood: Contest and Identity in a Cretan Mountain Village — Michael Herzfeld
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