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A classic in-law triangle: one partner feels their spouse prioritizes their mother over the marriage. Perel helps the couple see that the conflict is not about the mother-in-law but about where primary loyalty lies.
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Perel argues that marital satisfaction depends on the couple's ability to draw clear boundaries with their families of origin. Couples who cannot establish their relationship as the primary bond — distinct from and prioritized over parental bonds — experience chronic conflict.
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The transition from child-of-my-parents to partner-of-my-spouse is the most important identity shift in adult life — and many people never complete it
Perel identifies the core issue: the husband has not completed the developmental transition from being primarily his mother's son to being primarily his wife's partner. His primary loyalty remains with his family of origin, which his wife experiences as abandonment.Was this useful?