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WorkLife with Adam Grant · September 8, 2026 · 36m 55s

How to Say No

In a world filled with requests, saying no is a challenge for many—even those who aren’t people-pleasers. Adam Grant explores the psychology behind why we struggle to turn others down and what we can do about it. He’s joined by psychologist Vanessa Bohns, Sherri Lu of the Eldest Daughter Club, and playwright Topher Payne to discuss strategies for delivering an effective “no.” The episode argues that setting boundaries isn’t selfish; it’s essential for creating personal space and building healthier relationships.

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Highlights

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Why Saying No Feels Risky
The episode opens with the psychological barrier that makes people hesitate to refuse requests: the fear of damaging their reputation or being seen as unhelpful.
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Boundaries as Self-Care
Grant and his guests explore how setting boundaries through a clear “no” creates space for personal priorities, not just protecting against overcommitment.
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Healthier Relationships Through Boundaries
Saying no, when done effectively, can strengthen relationships rather than weaken them.

References

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You Have More Influence Than You Think — Vanessa Bohns
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The Tree Who Set Healthy Boundaries — Topher Payne
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