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WorkLife · February 18, 2025 · 50m

The Relational Baggage We Bring to Work

Esther Perel and Adam Grant discuss how relationship patterns from our personal lives — attachment styles, conflict avoidance, people-pleasing — follow us into the workplace and shape professional dynamics.

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Perel and Grant converge: the research shows that the quality of relationships within a team is a stronger predictor of team performance than the individual talent of team members. Yet organizations invest heavily in hiring talented individuals and almost nothing in building relationships between them.

Highlights

We bring our relational patterns to work — the way you handle conflict with your partner is the way you handle conflict with your boss
Perel argues that workplace dynamics mirror personal relationship dynamics: people who avoid conflict at home avoid conflict at work. People who seek control in relationships seek control in teams. The patterns are portable.
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