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We Can Do Hard Things · July 9, 2026 · 58m

(BEST OF) What Your Sign Says About How You Love | Chani Nicholas

Astrologer Chani Nicholas explores how childhood survival strategies shape adult relationships and emotional patterns. The conversation examines dysregulation, boundaries, healing, and the liberating insight that traumatic events weren't personal reflections of your worth. Nicholas draws on 20+ years of counseling astrology to show how understanding your birth chart can reveal relationship patterns and support radical self-acceptance.

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Curious

Your astrological birth chart—particularly your Venus sign, Moon sign, and relationship houses—reflects your patterns in love, intimacy, attachment, and how you express affection.

Highlights

The rules and behaviors that protected you as a child—hypervigilance, people-pleasing, emotional suppression—often persist into adulthood and limit your life even when you're safe.
Learning to recognize when your nervous system is dysregulated—through body cues, emotional intensity, or behavioral patterns—allows you to intervene and self-regulate rather than react from a dysregulated state.

Editorial

The Things That Happened to You Weren't About You
Trauma and difficult events from your past were about the circumstances, the other people involved, and systemic factors—not a reflection of your worth or something you caused.
Setting boundaries isn't about controlling others—it's about trusting yourself to know what you need and having the courage to communicate and enforce it.

References

You Were Born For This: Astrology for Radical Self-AcceptanceChani NicholasNicholas's framework for understanding life purpose and patterns through birth charts

Misc

Chani runs her company with her wife and business partner, Sonya Passi
The CHANI app offers personalized daily birth chart guidance
Nicholas reaches over 1 million monthly readers as a counseling astrologer
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