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Think Fast, Talk Smart · August 27, 2026 · 14m

318. Quick Thinks: Network Smarter and Make Better Connections

Vanessa Van Edwards
Show Notes

Vanessa Van Edwards joins Matt Abrahams to share research-backed strategies for better networking and communication. She explains how nonverbal cues like visible palms, eye contact, and positioning can signal warmth before you speak. Van Edwards offers a practical "conversational feed" system to replace dull small talk with surprising personal stories, and she breaks down charisma as the interplay of projecting both warmth and competence.

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Highlights

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Nonverbal Cues Signal Warmth Before You Speak
Vanessa Van Edwards explains that visible palms, eye contact, and positioning signal warmth and openness before you say a word, shaping how others experience the interaction from the start.
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Spark Curiosity to Make Conversations Memorable
Moving beyond routine small talk by sharing surprising stories, asking engaging questions, and showing genuine enthusiasm can spark curiosity and make interactions more memorable.
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The Conversational Feed: A System for Better Small Talk
Van Edwards recommends keeping a "conversational feed" — a phone note collecting three things from your week — and bringing one as "conversational confetti" to networking events.
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Charisma as the Blend of Warmth and Competence Signals
Van Edwards discusses charisma as the combination of projecting both warmth (through nonverbal cues like open palms and eye contact) and competence (through confident body language and substance).
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References

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Cues — Vanessa Van Edwards
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Captivate — Vanessa Van Edwards

Misc

✧Vanessa Van Edwards recommends showing your palms to signal openness even before you speak.
✧She suggests creating a "conversational feed" note on your phone to collect three weekly observations and bring one as "conversational confetti" to networking events.
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