Stop Waiting for the Perfect Moment, It Never Comes

Kier Gaines, a licensed therapist who grew up in a rough DC neighborhood, joins Lewis to explore why people freeze right before the moment they've prepared for finally arrives. They discuss the distinction between blame and responsibility, how anger can shift from protective armor to a limiting anchor, and why self-victimization feels safer to the brain than accountability. Gaines also shares insights from his new book "It All Starts When You Do," including his practice of interrogating his own beliefs rather than protecting them, and the hard simplicity of his core question: how much is actually enough?