The Mel Robbins Podcast #354 · December 22, 2025 · 1h 15m

You'll Never See Your Family the Same After This

Columbia psychologist Mariel Buqué explains why family time leaves you exhausted — your childhood role in the family system persists into adulthood. Intergenerational trauma patterns repeat until someone names them and breaks the cycle. Tools for navigating guilt, resentment, and the holidays without losing yourself.

Canon

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Childhood family roles persist into adulthood

Your role in the family system (peacekeeper, achiever, invisible child) was a survival strategy that persists into adult relationships. Directly supports the true self/false self Canon.

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Highlights

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Intergenerational trauma repeats until named

Trauma patterns pass through families not genetically but through behavior — the way conflict is handled, emotions are suppressed, and roles are assigned.

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References

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Break the Cycle — Mariel Buqué (2024) — Breaking intergenerational trauma patterns

Misc

✧Holiday-timed release — designed for family stress season

✧Buqué trained at Columbia in intergenerational trauma

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