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The Mel Robbins Podcast #311 · July 28, 2025 · 1h 26m

You Learn This Too Late: Understanding This Will Change the Way You Look at Your Relationships

Aliza Pressman

Developmental psychologist Aliza Pressman on how childhood attachment patterns shape adult relationships. Your relationship with your parents created a template that you unconsciously replay with partners, friends, and your own children.

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True self vs. false self — childhood adaptations persist into adult relationships
Pressman: the behaviors you learned to get love from your parents become your default relationship patterns. If you learned to suppress needs (avoidant) or amplify distress (anxious), those patterns persist unless consciously addressed.
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