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The One You Feed · August 21, 2026 · 58m

Why You Should Say the Thing You’re Afraid to Say | Leslie John

Eric Zimmer talks with Leslie John about why we often default to holding back and how opening up can build trust and deepen relationships. They explore the hidden costs of staying silent, why we overestimate the risks of speaking up, and practical ways to weigh the benefits of revealing more of ourselves. The conversation covers how validation makes difficult conversations more productive, why sharing feelings instead of arguing facts reduces conflict, and how revealing wisely is a skill anyone can strengthen with practice.

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Canon

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Being more open and vulnerable is a skill you can strengthen with practice rather than a fixed personality trait.
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Validating someone’s feelings, even when you disagree, can de-escalate conflict and improve communication.

Highlights

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We Overestimate the Risks of Speaking Up
People consistently overestimate the potential negative consequences of expressing their true thoughts or feelings.
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The Hidden Costs of Holding Back
Keeping things to yourself can carry significant emotional and mental costs.
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Naming Difficult Emotions Makes Them More Manageable
Putting your thoughts and feelings into words can reduce their emotional intensity and make them easier to handle.
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