How to Stop Feeling Bad About Feeling Bad | Mariana Alessandri

Mariana Alessandri, author of Night Vision: Seeing Ourselves Through Dark Moods, discusses why judging ourselves for feeling bad adds another layer of suffering. She explains how the pressure to 'choose happiness' can create shame when we struggle, and offers a compassionate alternative: asking 'What's wrong?' instead of 'What's wrong with me?'. The conversation explores how listening to uncomfortable emotions like anger can reveal our needs, and how acceptance of pain can coexist with the desire for relief. She also shares practical ways to support someone through grief without demanding they feel better.