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On Purpose with Jay Shetty · May 15, 2026 · 30m

Still Thinking About Your Ex? (Use This 2-Step Reset to Stop the Spiral for Good!)

After a breakup, it’s common to find yourself romanticizing the past—scrolling through photos of the best moments and questioning whether ending the relationship was a mistake. Jay Shetty explains that this is your brain editing your memories, holding onto the highlights while quietly erasing the arguments and patterns that led to the split. He also unpacks the biological side of heartbreak: your brain craves the connection like withdrawal, making it incredibly hard to resist checking their socials or replaying old conversations. Beneath it all, breakups often trigger deeper attachment fears and a loss of identity. Jay provides a two-step reset to help you stop the spiral and start rebuilding your sense of self.

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Canon

Jay explains that after a breakup, your mind filters out the pain and holds onto highlights, making the relationship seem better than it was.

Highlights

Heartbreak as Biological Withdrawal
Heartbreak isn't just emotional—your brain responds to the loss of connection like withdrawal, craving the neurological reward of being with that person.
Breakups Activate Attachment Insecurities
When you think you're missing your ex, part of what you're feeling is the loss of security, identity, and the version of yourself that existed in the relationship.
The Two-Step Reset for Post-Breakup Spiraling
Jay offers a two-step reset to stop the spiral of obsessive thoughts and social media checking after a breakup.
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