On Purpose with Jay Shetty · August 26, 2026 · 36m
Ask Jay: How Do I Forgive?
Jay Shetty answers four listener calls about forgiveness, covering the guilt mothers carry from custody bias, forgiving yourself after a parent's sudden death, uncovering a spouse's hidden life, and the pain of a friendship betrayal. He offers research-backed tools for releasing guilt and rebuilding trust without excusing harmful behavior.
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The 4 Levels Of Trust22:05
Jay describes four levels of trust — zero trust, provisional trust, conditional trust, and full trust — as a framework for rebuilding after betrayal.
Mothers And Fathers Are Held To Different Standards01:54
Jay observes that mothers are expected to carry disproportionate guilt, especially around custody arrangements, while fathers are often praised for meeting basic parenting obligations.
When a caller struggles with guilt after a parent's sudden death, Jay emphasizes that you cannot hold yourself responsible for things outside your control.
Jay addresses the self-blame that arises when someone discovers their late spouse had been living a hidden life, explaining why hindsight creates an illusion of obviousness.