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On Purpose with Jay Shetty · August 19, 2026 · 38m

Ask Jay: How Do I Let Go?

This is the first episode of On Purpose's Ask Jay series, in which listeners send voice notes with their biggest questions. Jay Shetty answers a question about how to let go when your heart is still holding on, using four personal stories. He covers the difference between love and trauma bonds, breadcrumbing, relationship amnesia, the anxious-avoidant cycle, and rebuilding trust after betrayal. The episode offers practical tools for choosing yourself, rebuilding self-trust, accepting silence as an answer, and healing before making relationship decisions.

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The Anxious-Avoidant Cycle00:20:12
Shetty walks through why avoidant partners leave and what they may be thinking, explaining a push-pull dynamic that anxious partners often try to decode.
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Highlights

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Love vs. Trauma Bonds00:11:04
Shetty distinguishes genuine love from a trauma bond so listeners can recognize when attachment comes from a harmful cycle rather than mutual care.
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Breadcrumbing and Listening to Your Body00:06:23
Shetty describes how small, intermittent forms of attention can keep people invested and tells listeners to use physical signals as a check on rationalization.
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The Love As Action Test00:19:11
Shetty offers a way to evaluate love by looking at consistent action rather than words, promises, or potential.
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Healing Before Choosing to Stay or Leave00:33:39
Shetty argues that after betrayal, trust can only be considered after a period of real healing, not as a forced decision made from a wounded state.
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Misc

✧This is the first episode of the Ask Jay series, built around listener voice notes.
✧Four personal stories anchor the episode.
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