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The Model Health Show · May 27, 2026 · 1h 6m

The Psychological Cost of Holding Emotions In & The Underrated Power of Oversharing - With Dr. Leslie John

Harvard Business School professor Dr. Leslie John joins the show to discuss insights from her new book Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing. She explains why suppressing emotions carries psychological costs and how strategically revealing your inner world can improve impressions, build trust, and strengthen relationships. The conversation covers reading the room, gender differences in sharing, the mind-reading expectation, and practical questions to ask before opening up. Listeners will learn that revealing is a learnable skill tied to emotional intelligence and can be practiced for more fulfilling conversations and better health.

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Highlights

Suppressing Thoughts and Emotions Has Psychological Costs03:14
Dr. John explains that holding in your thoughts and emotions can be mentally draining and damaging to relationships.
Revealing Feelings Can Improve How Others Perceive You07:26
Sharing your genuine feelings can make a better impression than staying guarded.
High-Status Individuals Can Benefit From Vulnerability15:34
When people in high-status positions show vulnerability, it often enhances their influence.
The Mind-Reading Expectation25:54
Many people secretly expect others to know their needs and feelings without being told.
Pre-Revealing Questions to Evaluate Risk and Reward34:42
Dr. John suggests asking yourself a set of strategic questions before opening up.
Gender Differences in How Men and Women Share28:00
Socialization leads men and women to have different patterns of self-disclosure.

References

Revealing: The Underrated Power of OversharingDr. Leslie JohnThe guest's new book on the power of strategic vulnerability.
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