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The Mel Robbins Podcast · September 3, 2026 · 1h 1m

How to Eliminate Self-Doubt, Overcome Failure, & Reset Your Mind for Success

Mel Robbins sits down with hit songwriter and producer Benny Blanco, who has 29 #1 hits and 19 songs with over a billion streams. Benny shares how he built his career not through confidence or privilege, but through relentless persistence through rejection, fear, and self-doubt. The conversation covers practical mindset shifts for reframing failure, why waiting to feel ready is a losing game, and how a list Benny made before dating his wife Selena Gomez helped him stop settling. Framed around his new book "F*ck Failure," the episode argues that every failure is leading somewhere, even when you can't see it.

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Highlights

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Waiting to Feel Ready Is a Losing Game
Benny argues that if you wait until you feel ready or confident to start, you'll never begin — the feeling of readiness comes from action, not before it.
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Failure as Redirection, Not a Dead End
Benny reframes every failure and rejection as leading you somewhere important, even when you can't see the destination in the moment.
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Keep Showing Up
The single rule Benny shares for achieving your goals — whether in career, relationships, or personal growth — is to keep showing up even when exhausted, embarrassed, or lost.
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Don't Let Self-Doubt Make Your Decisions
Benny describes a strategy for recognizing when self-doubt is driving your choices and how to override it by acting despite the doubt.
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One Small Move Away from Changing Your Life
Benny asserts that life transformation doesn't require a massive overhaul — you are always one small action away from a different trajectory.

References

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F*ck Failure — Benny Blanco (2026)

Misc

✧Benny Blanco has 29 #1 hits and 19 songs with over a billion streams on Spotify.
✧Benny did not grow up with money or confidence — he built his career through persistence.
✧Benny is married to Selena Gomez.
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