Stop Wasting Your Energy: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do Instead

Mel Robbins sits down with behavioral scientist Dr. Dolly Chugh to explore why people resist change and what truly works to influence behavior. Drawing on research from social psychology, Dr. Chugh presents practical tools for navigating difficult relationships without exhausting yourself. The conversation covers the three most effective strategies for helping someone change, a simple question to ask before giving advice, and a four-option clarifying question to understand what someone needs. Listeners also learn about the "brain bodyguards" that sabotage our own change efforts and the critical role of unlearning. This episode offers a lighter, more hopeful approach to dealing with people who won't change.