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Huberman Lab · June 22, 2026 · 2h 50m

Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul Eastwick

Andrew Huberman sits down with Dr. Paul Eastwick, a psychology professor at UC Davis and expert on mate selection. They discuss what people actually want in partners, how initial attraction forms and evolves, the pitfalls of dating apps, and the science of developing lasting compatibility. Eastwick shares research on attachment theory, the role of social support, and practical strategies for building deep romantic connections.

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Attachment Theory and Relationship Stability00:31:41
Eastwick explains how attachment theory, originally developed by John Bowlby, provides a framework for understanding relationship behaviors and stability.

Highlights

Dating Apps Select for Incompatible Traits00:15:21
Eastwick points out that dating apps often prioritize surface-level traits like photos and quick judgments, which don't predict long-term compatibility.
The Importance of Shared Moments for Developing Attraction00:15:21
Eastwick highlights that attraction often emerges not from first impressions but from shared moments and joint activities.
Social Support Affects Relationship Success Differently for Men and Women00:47:35
Eastwick discusses evidence that women's relationship satisfaction is more influenced by the support of their social network than men's.
Asking Good Questions Builds Genuine Connection01:22:57
Eastwick emphasizes that asking deep, open-ended questions in early dating fosters genuine connection.
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