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The Ed Mylett Show · July 7, 2026 · 39m

How to Stop Defining Yourself by Your Failures Feat. Dr. Nate Zinsser

Ed Mylett interviews Dr. Nate Zinsser, director of West Point’s Performance Psychology Program, about building real, unshakable confidence from the inside out. Zinsser shares specific exercises like the Psychological Bank Account, a daily three-question practice, and how to separate failure from identity. He explains the difference between preparation and performance psychology, and how the most confident people process setbacks as temporary. It’s a science-backed approach to rewiring your brain for confidence.

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Highlights

The Psychological Bank Account
Dr. Zinsser teaches an exercise to build a foundation of confidence from the memories and experiences you already have.
The Five-Minute Daily Confidence Practice
A three-question end-of-day reflection that literally rewires the brain to default to confidence.
Temporary vs. Permanent: Reframing Setbacks
The most confident people process failures as temporary and specific, not permanent and pervasive.
You Are Not a Failure
Failing at something does not make you a failure; separating the event from your identity is the most important distinction in building confidence.
The Psychology of Preparation vs. Performance
The psychology of preparation and the psychology of performance are completely different, and confusing them is costing you.

Misc

Ed Mylett (still) holds a grudge: Dr. Zinsser was the performance psychologist for Eli Manning and the Giants when they beat the Patriots in two Super Bowls.
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