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The Happiness Lab · August 3, 2026 · 46m

Why Being Alone Might Be Better Than You Think

Dr. Laurie Santos examines whether the panic over the loneliness epidemic might be making the problem worse. Historian Fay Bound-Alberti reveals that loneliness as a chronic emotional crisis is a surprisingly modern development, tied to industrialization. Psychologist Micaela Rodriguez explains why we confuse loneliness with simply being alone, and how learning to enjoy solitude can actually reduce feelings of isolation. Writer Emma Gannon shares practical strategies for embracing alone time. Santos connects the research to show that deliberately spending time alone builds emotional regulation, creativity, and healthier connections.

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Highlights

The Loneliness Epidemic Framing Could Be Backfiring
Constant warnings about a 'loneliness epidemic' may paradoxically increase people's distress about being alone.
Loneliness Is a Modern Invention
Historian Fay Bound-Alberti argues that chronic loneliness as we understand it today is a surprisingly recent phenomenon, not a universal human constant.
Solitude is Not Loneliness
Psychologist Micaela Rodriguez demonstrates that people often confuse the state of being alone with the painful feeling of loneliness, but learning to enjoy solitude can reduce loneliness.
Deliberate Solitude Strengthens Emotional Regulation and Creativity
Dr. Laurie Santos integrates research showing that regularly spending time alone can boost mood, spark creative thinking, and improve the quality of our relationships.

Editorial

Alone Time Is a Skill You Can Build
Writer Emma Gannon offers practical tips for intentionally cultivating a positive relationship with being alone, such as scheduling solo activities and avoiding constant digital distraction.

References

A Biography of Loneliness: The History of an EmotionFay Bound-Alberti (2019)
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