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Good Life Project · September 10, 2026 · 49m 2s

Single at Heart: What if You Don’t Need Someone Else to “Complete” You | Bella DePaulo, PhD | Bella DePaulo, PhD

Bella DePaulo
Show Notes

Bella DePaulo, a social psychologist and the author of “Single at Heart,” challenges the deep assumption that single people are secretly miserable. Drawing on surveys of over 20,000 people across 100+ countries, she unpacks why happy singles are routinely not believed, how choice turns solitude into something nourishing, and what the pandemic revealed about singles’ resilience. The conversation overturns common myths about loneliness, support networks, and the hidden costs of couple-centric life.

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Highlights

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Happy Singles Are Perceived As Liars
In DePaulo’s experiments, participants rated biographies that were identical except for marital status; singles who described themselves as happy were assumed to be exaggerating, while marrieds were taken at their word.
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Choice Separates Solitude from Loneliness
DePaulo argues that the critical boundary between beneficial solitude and painful loneliness is not personality or introversion, but whether the time alone is chosen.
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Married People Become More Insular Over Time
Research shows that married individuals tend to shrink their social circles over the years, focusing inward on the couple, which can quietly cost them later in life.
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49 Hospital Visitors: Debunking the Isolated-Single Myth
DePaulo recounts a bike accident that landed her in the hospital, where 49 people showed up to help, challenging the assumption that singles lack social support.
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References

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Single at Heart: The Power, Freedom, and Heart-Filling Joy of Single Life — Bella DePaulo

Misc

✧DePaulo’s entire research agenda began with a single sentence she clipped from a newspaper column in 1992.
✧Her TEDx talk on single people has been watched more than 1.8 million times.
✧She has surveyed over 20,000 people across more than 100 countries.
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