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Good Life Project · July 6, 2026 · 47:10

The Caregiving Conversation Everyone Postpones Until It's Too Late.

Candace Dellacona, a New York estate attorney and host of The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide, discusses the emotional and practical realities of caring for aging parents while also supporting children. She explains that the hardest part is often the grief—for who your parent used to be, for lost plans, and for your own sense of self. The conversation covers the four internal shifts (identity, ownership, grief, loneliness), the importance of proactive conversations about aging and death, and the three-person support team that can make a critical difference. Dellacona also highlights the unexpected beauty that can emerge during caregiving, including reconciliation and closeness. This episode offers guidance for anyone who hasn’t yet had a real conversation about what happens if a parent’s health changes.

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Curious

Candace Dellacona identifies that the hardest part of caregiving is not the logistics, but the grief for lost selves and futures.

Novel

The Four Shifts of Caregiving: Identity, Ownership, Grief, Loneliness
Dellacona describes the four internal shifts that happen during a caregiving season: identity, ownership, grief, and loneliness.

Highlights

The Sandwich Generation Is Broader Than You Think
Dellacona argues that the sandwich generation is far broader than commonly assumed, applying even if your parents are currently healthy or your children are grown.
The Three-Person Team That Can Change Everything
Dellacona recommends a specific three-person support team for caregiving families.
Have Aging and Death Conversations Before Crisis
Dellacona urges families to have conversations about aging, death, and legal documents long before a crisis.
Caregiving Brings Unexpected Beauty
Dellacona highlights that caregiving can bring reconciliation, closeness, and the honor of ushering a loved one.
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