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The Stoic Handbook · August 3, 2026 · 1h 49m
Why the Relaxed Man Always Wins (with Bas Rutten)
Former MMA fighter Bas Rutten explains how the ability to stay relaxed became his most powerful weapon. Before his first fight in Japan, he learned his opponent was 33 pounds heavier, the round was thirty minutes long, and there were no rules he recognised — so he wrote 'R' (for rustig, Dutch for 'relaxed') on each fist. Mid-fight he was calm enough to overhear spectators discussing a house move, and that moment revealed the two competing voices inside him. The conversation draws out Stoic lessons on separating what you can control from what you cannot, and on using the gap between stimulus and response to choose calm over panic under extreme pressure.
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Bas Rutten responded to a terrifying mismatch — a heavier opponent, a thirty-minute round, and unfamiliar rules — by doubling down on remaining relaxed, because panic only makes things worse.
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While fighting, Rutten became aware of an internal dialogue: one voice panicked, the other stayed calm, and simply noticing that gap gave him the power to choose.
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✧Bas Rutten wrote 'R' on each fist before a fight with an opponent 33 pounds heavier, in a 30-minute round with no recognised rules.
✧Mid-fight he was calm enough to overhear two spectators in the front row discussing a house move.
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