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Being Well · July 27, 2026 · 1h 28m

The Grieving Body: How to Heal After Loss with Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

Forrest Hanson and Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor explore the physiological toll of grief. They discuss how the brain creates maps of loved ones' presence and how loss disrupts that internal prediction, leading to physical symptoms. Dr. O'Connor explains the health risks of bereavement, the concept of prolonged grief disorder, and practical tools for taking care of the healing body. The conversation covers how attachment relationships function as external regulators for our nervous system and what happens when they disappear. Throughout, they emphasize that grieving is a biological process we must understand to support ourselves and others through.

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Canon

Our brains create neural maps of loved ones' presence, and when they die, these maps no longer match reality, causing ongoing surprise and dysregulation.
Grief increases risk for heart problems, immune dysfunction, and even mortality, driven by the stress of loss.
Prolonged Grief and Getting Stuck in Restoration00:45:45
Prolonged Grief Disorder is a clinical condition where intense grief persists beyond a year, disrupting identity and daily life.
Grieving involves gradually rebuilding a life that integrates the loss, not moving on from it.

Curious

Loved ones serve as external regulators of our heart rate, breathing, and emotional states, and their loss destabilizes that system.

Editorial

Taking Care of Yourself After a Loss00:24:53
O'Connor offers practical guidance for the healing body: prioritize sleep, nutrition, and gentle movement, and avoid major life changes too soon.

References

The Grieving BrainMary-Frances O'Connor (2022)
The Grieving BodyMary-Frances O'Connor (2025)
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