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Being Well · March 30, 2026 · 1h 13m

Self-Regulation: How a Little Becomes a Lot with Eric Zimmer

Eric Zimmer

Why don’t we choose the things we know are good for us? It’s usually because we’re struggling with self-regulation, one of the most important (and most misunderstood) skills out there. In today’s episode, Forrest talks with Eric Zimmer about what healthy self-regulation actually looks like, the gap between insight and action, how shame can derail us, and why most change comes down to small steps taken consistently. They discuss how to figure out what actually matters to you vs. what you want right now, the tension between acceptance and change, and how to get back on track after a slip without making it worse.

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Curious

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Insight to Action Gap04:32
Zimmer discusses why having insight alone rarely leads to behavioral change, and what it takes to bridge that gap.
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Acceptance and Change: When to Shift32:05
The episode explores the tension between accepting circumstances and pushing for change.
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Highlights

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Self-Regulation Defined00:00
Eric Zimmer explains what healthy self-regulation means and why it's critical for making choices aligned with our long-term goals.
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Values vs. Desires08:14
A key skill in self-regulation is distinguishing between what you value most and what you want in the moment.
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Changing Our Relationship to Shame20:57
Shame often derails self-regulation, but Zimmer shares how we can change our relationship to it.
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References

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How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life — Eric Zimmer — Eric Zimmer's new book, discussed throughout the episode.
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