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Being Well · August 24, 2026 · 1h 25m

How to Feel Your Feelings with Simone Saunders

Forrest Hanson speaks with trauma therapist Simone Saunders about how to move from understanding your patterns to taking action when emotions become intense. They explore what the nervous system does when it perceives a lack of safety and why the coping tools we have often become inaccessible right when we need them most. Simone outlines a three-step process for connecting with physical sensations, identifying what they are communicating, and experimenting with new responses. The conversation also covers functional freeze, what to do when you feel emotionally numb, and how to work with shame and grief.

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Highlights

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Cognitive bypassing and intellectualizing emotions00:00:00
Many people overthink or intellectualize their emotions instead of feeling them, a pattern known as cognitive bypassing.
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Bottom-up approaches to trauma00:09:46
Saunders explains that bottom-up approaches work with the body's sensations first, rather than starting with thoughts, to process trauma.
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Functional freeze00:18:33
Functional freeze is a nervous system state where you can go through the motions of daily life but feel emotionally numb or disconnected.
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A three-step process to actually feel your feelings00:34:51
Saunders offers a practical three-step method: notice a sensation in the body, identify what need it might be signaling, and do something different in response.
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The limit of self-understanding and tools00:57:40
Self-understanding and coping tools often fail in moments of high intensity because the nervous system’s threat response overrides higher reasoning.
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