Limerence: Romantic Infatuation
observation · Love and Limerence by Dorothy Tennov ()
Limerence is an involuntary state of intense romantic desire characterized by intrusive thoughts, emotional dependency, and longing for reciprocation.
Core Concepts
The Problem
Why do people become uncontrollably obsessed with romantic partners or potential partners, and why is it so hard to let go?
The Claim
Limerence is a distinct psychological state driven by neurochemical processes that can become addictive.
Key Evidence
- •Dorothy Tennov coined the term after interviews with hundreds of individuals describing obsessive love.
- •Subsequent neuroscience has linked limerence to dopamine and reward system dysregulation, akin to addiction.
Practical Implication
Understanding limerence as a neurobiological phenomenon destigmatizes the experience and points to targeted interventions.
Nuance & Limits
Not all intense romantic attraction is pathological; limerence exists on a spectrum and becomes harmful when it disrupts life.
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